Showing posts with label Self Help. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Self Help. Show all posts

Wednesday, 7 December 2016

Perception

A teacher teaching Maths to a six-year-old asked him, "If I give you one apple and one apple & one apple, how many apples will you have?"

With a few seconds the boy replied confidently, "Four!"

The dismayed teacher was expecting an effortless correct answer (three).

She was disappointed. "May be the child did not listen properly," she thought.

She repeated, "pls listen carefully.

It is very simple. You will be able to do it right if you listen carefully.

If I give you one apple and one apple and one apple, how many apples will you have?"

The boy had seen the disappointment on his teacher\'s face.

He calculated again on his fingers.

But within him he was also searching for the answer that will make his teacher happy.

This time hesitatingly he replied, "Four..."

The disappointment stayed on teacher\'s face.

She remembered that the boy loves strawberries.

She thought maybe he doesn\'t like apples and that is making him lose focus.

This time with exaggerated excitement & twinkling eyes she asked ...

"If I give you one strawberry & one strawberry & one strawberry, then how many will you have?"

Seeing the teacher happy, the young boy calculated on his fingers again.

There was no pressure on him, but a little on the teacher.

She wanted her new approach to succeed.

With a hesitating smile, the young boy replied, "Three?"

The teacher now had a victorious smile. Her approach had succeeded.

She wanted to congratulate herself.

But one last thing remained.

Once again she asked him, "Now if I give you one apple and one apple and one more apple how many will you have?"

Promptly the answer was "Four!"

The teacher was aghast.

"How.... tell me, How?" she demanded in a little stern and irritated voice.

In a voice that was low and hesitating young boy replied, "Because I already have one apple in my bag."

Lessons to Learn: When someone gives you an answer that is different from what you are expecting, it is not necessarily they are wrong.

There may be an angle that we may not have understood at all.

We need to learn to appreciate and understand different perspectives.

Quite often, we try and impose our perspectives on others and then wonder what went wrong.

The next time someone gives you a different perspective than yours, sit down and gently ask " can you please help me understand"?

Sunday, 20 November 2016

Prajit Self Help Group




Prajit is the very active mental health self help group for people who suffer with the stress, uncontrolled anger, depression, tension etc. It helps to the people to come out of their problem and to lead the normal, happy and the better life.

This self help group is for

    The people, who suffer with depression, who feel low, who are out of spirit & remain in the bad mood.
    Those who are worried, tense, restless.
    Those who cannot concentrate well.
    The ones who are irritable, who have lost efficiency at work.

Symptoms

    People who suffer from depression–symptoms
    Fell low, out of spirit, in the bad mood, tired, exhausted, loss of appetite, loss of sleep, suicidal ideas and suicidal attempts.
    People who are worried–symptoms
    Feeling anxious, tense, restless, stressful, and fearful of the various thoughts at a time: at home and work. Vague fear that something bad happens irritability to work well.
    People who have problems in family–symptoms
    Quarrels, anger, violence, bitterness, unsatisfactory marriage breaking of relations or of family, divorce.
    People who are not happy
    For various reasons, mainly because of negative thinking

Method of Work

Self–help. Guidance is given on rational thinking & positive approach. Home work involves modifying own thinking & behavior in fruitful way. There is group guidance & group sharing. Teaching is based on psychology. We use the essence of theories of famous psychologists like Albert Ellis, Aaron T Beck etc. Daniel Goleman is taught. Ample help is sought from teaching of saints.

Useful details

    Prajit Self–help Group meets on every Sunday at 10 am for about 3 hours at Nivara Old Age Home’s hall.
    There is no commercial fee for membership but voluntary contribution is accepted.
    There is a prayer and an oath. Acceptance of these two is necessary to become a member.
    Group receives guidance from psychiatrist Dr. Ulhas Luktuke.
    A lecture on positive thinking, group sharing & fellowship are three main parts of every meeting. From time to time there are variety entertainment programs, picnics etc. Booklets are also published.

For further information please contact

Sanjay Bendre: +91 9372486236
Jayant : +91 9423012114
Shubhada: +91 20 25439284
Nilima: +91 20 24280101


Weekly meeting address
‘Nivara’ Old age home, Near Patrakar Bhavan,
Navi Peth, Ganjve chowk, Pune 411 030, Maharashtra, India

Friday, 14 October 2016

CONFIDENCE: TRUST: HOPE:

CONFIDENCE:
Once all village people decided to pray for rain .On the day of prayer all
People gathered and only one boy came with an umbrella that’s confidence.. ………

TRUST:

Trust should be like the feeling of a one year old baby
When you throw him in the air, he laughs……
Because he knows you will catch him……..

HOPE:
A human being can live for
40 days without water
8 minutes without air
But not even 1 second without hope….

Tuesday, 26 July 2016

Keyboard Shortcuts for Excel



Formatting

[Ctrl]B  Bold the selection
[Ctrl]I  Italicize the selection
[Ctrl]U  Underline the selection
[Ctrl]5  Strike through the selection
[Alt] and '  Open the Style dialog box
[Ctrl]1  Open the Format Cells dialog box
[Ctrl][Shift]~  Apply General format
[Ctrl][Shift]$  Apply Currency format
[Ctrl][Shift]%  Apply percentage format
[Ctrl][Shift]#  Apply Date format
[Ctrl][Shift]@  Apply Time format
[Ctrl][Shift]!  Apply Number format
[Ctrl][Shift]^  Apply Exponential number format
[Ctrl][Shift]&  Apply an outline border to selection
[Ctrl][Shift] and _  Remove outline border from selection


Navigation

[Ctrl][Page Down]  Move to the next worksheet in a workbook
[Ctrl][Page Up]  Move to the previous worksheet in a workbook
[Ctrl][F6]  Cycle between open workbooks
Arrow keys  Move one cell up, down, left, or right
[Ctrl] and an arrow key Move to the edge of the data region
[Home]  Move to the beginning of a row
[Ctrl][Home]  Move to the beginning of a worksheet
[Ctrl][End]  Move to the end of the used portion of a worksheet
[F6]  Move between panes in a split worksheet
[Ctrl][Backspace]  Display the active cell
[Enter]  Move down a cell in a selected range
[Shift][Enter]  Move up a cell in a selected range
[Shift][Tab]  Move one cell to the left in a selected range
[Ctrl] and . (period)  Move from corner cell to corner cell in a selected range


Selection techniques

[Shift][Spacebar]  Select a row
[Ctrl][Spacebar]  Select a column
[Ctrl]A  Select an entire worksheet
[Shift][Home]  Select from current cell(s) to the beginning of the row
[Shift][End][Enter]  Select from current cell(s) to last used cell in row
[Ctrl][Shift][Home]  Select from current cell(s) to the beginning of the worksheet
[Ctrl][Shift][End]  Select from current cell(s) to the end of the used portion of a worksheet
[Ctrl] and *
Select the data region surrounding the active cell
[Ctrl][Shift]O
Select all cells that contain a comment
[Ctrl] and [ Select cells that a selected formula directly references
[Ctrl] and ]  Select formulas that directly reference the active cell


Workbook basics

[Ctrl]O  Open a workbook
[Ctrl]N  Create a new workbook
[Ctrl]S  Save a workbook
[F12]  Open the Save As dialog box
[Ctrl]P  Print a workbook
[Ctrl]W  Close a workbook
[Shift][F11]  Insert a new worksheet
[Ctrl]9  Hide selected rows
[Ctrl][Shift]9  Display hidden rows in selection
[Ctrl]0  Hide selected columns
[Ctrl][Shift]0  Display hidden columns in selection
[Ctrl]F  Open the Find tab of the Find And Replace dialog box
[Ctrl]H  Open the Replace tab of the Find And Replace dialog box
[F7]  Run a spelling check on a worksheet or selected text


Working with data

[Enter]  Complete an entry and move to the next cell
[Alt][Enter]  Insert a new line within a cell
[F2]  Enable editing within a cell
[Ctrl][Enter]  Fill selected cells with an entry you type
[Ctrl]D  Fill data down through selected cells
[Ctrl]R  Fill data through selected cells to the right
[Ctrl][F3]  Create a name
[Ctrl]K  Insert a hyperlink
[Ctrl] and ; (semicolon)  Insert the current date
[Ctrl] and : (colon)  Insert the current time
[Ctrl]X  Cut the selected text or objects to the Clipboard
[Ctrl]C  Copy the selected text or objects to the Clipboard
[Ctrl]V  Paste the contents of the Clipboard
[Ctrl]Y  Repeat last action
[Ctrl]Z  Undo last edit
[Ctrl][Delete]  Delete from the insertion point to the end of the line
[Ctrl][Shift]+  Add blank cells
[Ctrl]- (hyphen)  Delete selected cells
[F11]  Create a chart from a range of data


Formula shortcuts

=  Begin a formula
[Ctrl][Shift][Enter]  Enter a formula as an array
[Shift][F3]  Display the Insert Function dialog box (Paste Function in Excel 97)
[F3]  Paste a defined name into a formula
[Alt]=  Insert a SUM AutoSum formula
Type a function in the Formula bar and press [Ctrl]A  Display the Function Arguments dialog box
[Ctrl][Shift] and "  Copy the value from the cell above the current cell into the current cell
[Ctrl] and '  Copy a formula from the cell above the current cell into the current cell
[Ctrl] and `  Toggle between display of formulas and cell values
[F9]  Calculate values for sheets in all open workbooks
[Shift][F9]  Calculate values for the current worksheet
[Esc]  Cancel an entry you're making in a cell or in the formula bar

Sunday, 20 March 2016

Why walk is necessary ?

Ever wondered what happens to your body when you start walking?

Here's a minute-by   -minute rundown of the amazing chain reaction walking and exercise has upon your body, it's truly amazing!

Minutes 1 to 5

Your first few steps trigger the release of energy-producing chemicals in your cells to fuel your walk. Your heart rate revs-up from about 70 to 100 beats per minute (bpm), boosting blood-flow and warming muscles.

Any stiffness subsides as joints release lubricating fluid to help you move more easily. As you get moving, your body burns 5 calories per minute, compared with only 1 per minute at rest. Your body needs more fuel and starts pulling from its carbohydrates and fat stores.

Minutes 6 to 10

Heartbeat increases and you're burning up to 6 calories a minute as you pick up the pace. A slight rise in blood pressure is countered by the release of chemicals that expand blood vessels, bringing more blood and oxygen to working muscles.

Minutes 11 to 20

Your body temperature keeps rising, and you start to perspire as blood vessels near the skin expand to release heat. As your walk becomes brisker, you'll be burning up to 7 calories a minute and breathing harder. Hormones such as epinephrine and glucagon rise to release fuel to the muscles.

Minutes 21 to 45

Feeling invigorated, you start to relax as your body releases tension, thanks in part to a dose of feel-good chemicals such as endorphins in your brain. As more fat is burned, insulin (which helps store fat) drops--excellent news for anyone battling excess weight or diabetes.

Minutes 46 to 60

Your muscles may feel fatigued as carbohydrates stores are reduced. As you cool down, your heart rate decreases and your breathing slows. You'll be burning fewer calories but more than you were before you started. Your calorie burn will remain elevated for up to 1 hour.

All this happens without a single conscious thought from us - the human body is amazing....
Stay blessed -Stayfit..
Walk / Exercise..         
Kindly forward to as many as possible...

What is Brain Stroke

Stroke has a new indicator! Read and pass on....

Stroke has a new indicator They say if you email this to ten people, you stand a chance of saving one life. Will you send this along? Blood Clots/Stroke - They Now Have a Fourth Indicator, the Tongue

STROKE: Remember the 1st Three Letters.....

S. T. R.

STROKE IDENTIFICATION:

During a BBQ, a woman stumbled and took a little fall - she assured everyone that she was fine (they offered to call paramedics) ...she said she had just tripped over a brick because of her new shoes.

They got her cleaned up and got her a new plate of food. While she appeared a bit shaken up, Jane went about enjoying herself the rest of the evening.

Jane's husband called later telling everyone that his wife had been taken to the hospital - (at 6:00 PM Jane passed away.) She had suffered a stroke at the BBQ. Had they known how to identify the signs of a stroke, perhaps Jane would be with us today. Some don't die. They end up in a helpless, hopeless condition instead.
It only takes a minute to read this.

A neurologist says that if he can get to a stroke victim within 3 hours he can totally reverse the effects of a stroke...totally. He said the trick was getting a stroke recognized, diagnosed, and then getting the patient medically cared for within 3 hours, which is tough.

RECOGNIZING A STROKE

Thank God for the sense to remember the '3' steps, STR. Read and
Learn!

Sometimes symptoms of a stroke are difficult to identify. Unfortunately, the lack of awareness spells disaster. The stroke victim may suffer severe brain damage when people nearby fail to recognize the symptoms of a stroke.

Now doctors say a bystander can recognize a stroke by asking three simple questions:

S *Ask the individual to SMILE.

T *Ask the person to TALK and SPEAK A
SIMPLE SENTENCE (Coherently)
(i.e. Chicken Soup)

R *Ask him or her to RAISE BOTH ARMS.

If he or she has trouble with ANY ONE of these tasks, call emergency number immediately and describe the symptoms to the dispatcher.

New Sign of a Stroke
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Stick out Your Tongue!

NOTE: Another 'sign' of a stroke is this:

Ask the person to 'stick' out his tongue. If the tongue is 'crooked', if it goes to one side or the other that is also an indication of a stroke.

A cardiologist says if everyone who gets this e-mail sends it to 10 people; you can bet that at least one life will be saved.

I have done my part. Will you?

Monday, 4 January 2016

11 things you won’t learn at school, Bill Gates




Rule 1 : Life is not fair – get used to it!

Rule 2 : The world won’t care about your self-esteem. > > The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3 : You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won’t be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.
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Rule 4 : If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss!

Rule 5 : Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping: they called it opportunity.

Rule 6 : If you mess up, it’s not your parents’ fault, so don’t whine > > about your mistakes, learn from them.

Rule 7 : Before you were born, your parents weren’t as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent’s generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.

Rule 8 : Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools, they have abolished failing grades and they’ll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn’t bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

Rule 9 : Life is not divided into semesters. You don’t get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time.

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Rule 10 : Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Rule 11 : Be nice to nerds. Chances are you’ll end up working for one.

Tuesday, 15 December 2015

Geeta in Management

GEETA IN MANAGEMENT- DISCUSSION:
Conversation between Krishna & Today's Arjun



1. Arjun :- I can’t find free time. Life has become hectic.

Krishna:- Activity gets you busy. But productivity gets you free.

2. Arjun :- Why has life become complicated now?

 Krishna :- Stop analyzing life... It makes it complicated. Just live it.

3. Arjun :- Why are we then constantly unhappy?

Krishna :- Worrying has become your habit. That’s why you are not happy.

4. Arjun :- Why do good people always suffer?

Krishna :- Diamond cannot be polished without friction. Gold cannot be purified without fire. Good people go through trials, but don’t suffer.
With that experience their life becomes better, not bitter.

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5. Arjun :- You mean to say such experience is useful?

Krishna :- Yes. In every term, Experience is a hard teacher. She gives the test first and the lessons later.

6. Arjun :- Because of so many problems, we don’t know where we are heading…

Krishna:- If you look outside you will not know where you are heading. Look inside. Eyes provide sight. Heart provides the way.

7. Arjun :- Does failure hurt more than moving in the right direction?

Krishna:- Success is a measure as decided by others. Satisfaction is a measure as decided by you.

8. Arjun :- In tough times, how do you stay motivated?

Krishna :- Always look at how far you have come rather than how far you have to go. Always count your blessing, not what you are missing.

9. Arjun :- What surprises you about people?

Krishna :- When they suffer they ask, "why me?" When they prosper, they never ask "Why me?"

10. Arjun :- How can I get the best out of life?

Krishna:- Face your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear.

11. Arjun :- One last question. Sometimes I feel my prayers are not answered.

Krishna:- There are no unanswered prayers. Keep the faith and drop the fear. Life is a mystery to solve, not a problem to resolve. Trust me. Life is wonderful if you know how to live.

Stay Happy Always.....!!!

Wednesday, 9 December 2015

Behaviors of Leaders by Covey




Talk straight.
Let people know where you stand. Use simple language.

Demonstrate respect.
Genuinely care and show it.

Create transparency.
Tell the truth in a way that can be verified. Err on the side of disclosure.

Right Wrongs.
Apologize quickly. Make restitution where possible.

Show loyalty.
Give credit freely. Speak about people as if they were present.

Deliver results.
Don’t overpromise and underdeliver. Don’t make excuses.

Get better.
Thank and act on feedback.

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Confront reality.
Take issues head on, even the “undiscussibles.”

Clarify expectations.
Disclose, reveal, discuss, validate, renegotiate if needed, don’t violate, expectations.

Practice accountability.
Take responsibility for results. Be clear on how you’ll communicate.

Listen first.
Don’t assume you know what matters most to others.

Keep commitments.
Make commitments carefully. Don’t break confidences.

Extend trust.
Extend trust abundantly to those who have earned it. Extend trust conditionally to those who are earning it.

Tuesday, 8 December 2015

GM Weight Loss Diet Program

This program is designed for a target weight loss of 10-17 lbs per week.

You must drink 10 glasses of water each day.




Day One 

All fruits except bananas. Your first day will consist of all the fruits you want. It is strongly suggested that you consume lots of melons the first day. Especially watermelon and a loupe. If you limit your fruit consumption to melons, your chances of losing three lbs. on first day are very good.

Day Two 


All vegetables. You are encouraged to eat until you are stuffed with all the raw or cooked vegetables of your choice. There is no limit on the amount or type. For your complex carbohydrate, you will start day two with a large baked potato for breakfast. You may top the potato with one pat of butter.

Day Three 

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A mixture of fruits and vegetables of your choice. Any amount, any quantity. No bananas yet. No potatoes today.

Day Four 


Bananas and milk. Today you will eat as many as eight bananas and drink three glasses of milk. This will be combined with the special soup which may be eaten in limited quantities.

Day Five 


Today is feast day. You will eat beef and tomatoes. Eat two 10 oz. portions of lean beef. Hamburger is OK. Combine this with six whole tomatoes. On day five you must increase your water intake by one quart. This is to cleanse your system of the uric acid you will be producing.

Day Six 


Beef and vegetables. Today you may eat an unlimited amount of beef and vegetables. Eat to your hearts content.

Day Seven 


Today your food intake will consist of brown rice, fruit juices and all the vegetables you care to consume. 

Saturday, 28 November 2015

To celebrate growing older



This is something we should all read at least once a week!!!!! Make sure you read to the end!!!!!!

Written by Regina Brett, 90 years old, of the Plain Dealer, Cleveland , Ohio .

"To celebrate growing older, I once wrote few lessons life taught me. It is the most requested column I've ever written.


1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will.

4. You don't have to win every argument. Stay true to yourself.

5. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.

6. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
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7. Make peace with your past so it won't mess up  up the present.

8. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

9. Take a deep breath every now and then. It calms the mind.

10. Get rid of anything that isn't useful. Clutter weighs you down in many ways.

11. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.

12. It's never too late to be happy. But it’s all up to you and no one else.

13. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.

14. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy clothes. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

15. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

16. Frame every so-called disaster with these words 'In five years, will this matter?'

17. Always choose life.

18. Forgive others and yourself.

19. What other people think of you is none of your business.

20. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

21. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

22. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

23. Believe in miracles.

24. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.

25. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

26. Growing old beats the alternative of dying young.

27. Your children get only one childhood.

28. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

29. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

30. Envy is a waste of time. Accept what you already have, not what you need

31. The best is yet to come...

32. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

33. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift."


Its worth reading again & again, as & when you can. 😊😊

Monday, 23 November 2015

Leadership and Management by Stephen R. Covey



Leadership and Management are two different things. 
Leadership is not management. 
Leadership has to come first.
Management is a bottom-line focus: How can I best accomplish certain things? 
Leadership deals with the top line: What are the things I want to accomplish? 

In the words of both Peter Drucker and  Warren Bennis, “Management is doing things right; leadership is doing the right things.”
Management is efficiency in climbing the ladder of success; leadership determines whether the ladder is leaning against the right wall.

The leader is the one who climbs the tallest tree, surveys the entire situation, and yells, “Wrong jungle!” But how do the busy, efficient producers and managers often respond? “Shut up! We’re making progress.”

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At the final session of a year-long executive development program in Seattle, the president of an oil company came up to me and said, “Stephen, when you pointed out the difference between leadership and management in the second month, I looked at my role as the president of this company and realized that I had never been into leadership. I was deep into management, buried by pressing challenges and the details of day-to-day logistics. So I decided to withdraw from management. I could get other people to do that. I wanted to really lead my organization.
“It was hard. I went through withdrawal pains because I stopped dealing with a lot of the pressing, urgent matters that were right in front of me and which gave me a sense of immediate accomplishment. I didn’t receive much satisfaction as I started wrestling with the direction issues, the culture-building issues, the deep analysis of problems, the seizing of new opportunities. Others also went through withdrawal pains from their working style comfort zones. They missed the easy accessibility I had given them before. They still wanted me to be available to them, to respond, to help solve their problems on a day-to-day basis.”
“But I persisted. I was absolutely convinced that I needed to provide leadership. And I did. Today our whole business is different. We’re more in line with our environment. We have doubled our revenues and quadrupled our profits. I’m into leadership.”
I’m convinced that too often parents are also trapped in the management paradigm, thinking of control, efficiency, and rules instead of direction, purpose, and family feeling.
And leadership is even more lacking in our personal lives. We’re into managing with efficiency, setting and achieving goals before we have even clarified our values.”

Extracts from the Seven Habits of Highly effective People
By Stephen R. Covey

Wipro chief’s 10-point recipe for success




Wipro chairman Azim H Premji, one of India’s most successful entrepreneurs, on Friday prescribed a 10-point recipe for success, based on the very lessons he had learnt during his last 35 years in the organization.

“You should dare to dream, define what you stand for, never lose your zest and curiosity, always strive for excellence, build self confidence, learn to work in teams, take care of yourself, preserve, have a broader social vision and finally never let success go to your head,” Premji said.
The Wipro chairman was delivering the convocation address at the 38 the convocation of the Indian Institute of Technology, Madras.

Following is the entire text of the convocation address made by Premji:
I am privileged to be with you here today and to share this significant moment of your life.
The convocation marks the culmination of all the endless nights you worked through, all the anxieties you have gone through facing one examination after another and all the preparation you have put in, not only to enter this prestigious institution but also to graduate from it successfully. It is no mean achievement.

Only a handful of the most talented people in the world have shared this success with you. Let me just say that I am very proud of each and every one of you.

I am a little wary about giving you advice- because advice is one thing young people all over the world do not like receiving. I cannot fault you for that.

The world does look very different when it is seen with your eyes. You are filled with enthusiasm and are straining at the leash to get on with life.

And the world is very different from what it was when I was at your age. Never before has the role of technology been so pervasive and so central. The Internet has breached all physical borders and connected the world together like no other force has done before.

For the first time, opportunities for creating wealth in India are at par with the best in world. There is no need for you to sacrifice the joy of remaining in your own country any more.

All opportunities are accompanied by their own challenges. I thought I would share with you a few of the lessons I have learnt in my own life, while loading the transformation at Wipro, from a small company three and a half decades back into a global corporation listed on the New York Stock Exchange. I hope you find them useful.

Lesson # 1: Dare to dream

When I entered Wipro at the age of 21, it was a sudden and unexpected event. I had
no warning of what lay ahead of me and I was caught completely unprepared. All I had with me was a dream.
A dream of building a great Organisation. It compensated for my inexperience and I guess, also prevented me from being overwhelmed by the enormity of the task before me.
What I am happy is that we never stopped dreaming. Even when we achieved a position of leadership in every business we operated in India. We now have a dream of becoming one of the top 10 global it service companies.
Many people wonder whether having unrealistic dreams is foolish. My reply to that is dreams by themselves can never be realistic or safe. If they were, they would not be dreams. I do agree that one must have strategies to execute dreams. And, of course, one must slog to transform dreams into reality. But dreams come first.
What saddens me most is to see young, bright people getting completely disillusioned by a few initial setbacks and slowly turning cynical and some of them want to migrate to America in the hope this is the solution.
It requires courage to keep dreaming. And that is when dreams are most needed- not when everything is going right, but when just about everything is going wrong.

Lesson # 2: Define what you stand for

While success is important, it can become enduring only if it is built on a strong foundation of Values. Define what you stand for as early as possible and do not compromise with it for any reason. Nobody can enjoy the fruits of success if you have to argue with your own conscience.
In Wipro, we defined our Beliefs long before it became a fashion to do so. It not only helped us in becoming more resilient to stand up to crises we faced along the way, but it also helped us in attracting the right kind of people.
Eventually, we realised that our values made eminent business sense. Values help in clarifying what everyone should do or not do in any business situation. It saves enormous time and effort because each issue does not have to be individually debated at length.
But remember that values are meaningful only if you practice them. People may listen to what you say but they will believe what you do. Values are a matter of trust. They must be reflected in each one of your actions. Trust takes a long time to build but can be lost quickly by just one inconsistent act.

Lesson #3: Never lose your zest and curiosity

All the available knowledge in the world is accelerating at a phenomenal rate. The whole world’s codified knowledge base (all documented information in library books and electronic files) doubled every 30 years in the early 20th century.
By the 1970s, the world’s knowledge base doubled every seven years. Information researchers predict that by the year 2010, the world’s codified knowledge will double every 11 hours.
Remaining on top of what you need to know will become one of the greatest challenges for you.
The natural zest and curiosity for learning is one of the greatest drivers for keeping updated on knowledge. A child’s curiosity is insatiable because every new object is a thing of wonder and mystery. The same zest is needed to keep learning new things.
I personally spend at least ten hours every week on reading. If I do not do that, I find myself quickly outdated.

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Lesson # 4: Always strive for excellence

There is a tremendous difference between being good and being excellent in whatever you do. In the world of tomorrow, just being good is not good enough.
One of the greatest advantages of globalisation is that it has brought in completely different standards. Being the best in the country is not enough; one has to be the best in the world. Excellence is a moving target. One has to constantly raise the bar.
In the knowledge-based industries, India has the unique advantage of being a quality leader. just like japan was able to win in the overseas market with its quality leadership in automobile manufacturing, india has been able to do the same in information technology.
At Wipro, we treat quality as the #1 priority. This enabled us not only to become the world’s first SEI CMM Level 5 software services company in the world but also a leader in Six Sigma approach to quality in India.
However, even today I am dissatisfied with several things which we are not doing right in the area of customer satisfaction.
Doing something excellently has its own intrinsic joy, which I think is the greatest benefit of Quality.

Lesson # 5: Build self-confidence

Self-confidence comes from a positive attitude even in adverse situations. Self-confident people assume responsibility for their mistakes and share credit with their team members.
They are able to distinguish between what is in their control and what is not. They do not waste their energies on events that are outside their control and hence they can take setbacks in their stride.
Remember, no one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
Lesson # 6: Learn to work in teams
The challenges ahead are so complex that no individual will be able to face them alone. While most of our education is focused in individual strength, teaming with others is equally important. You cannot fire a missile from a canoe. Unless you build a strong network of people with complimentary skills, you will be restricted by your own limitations.
Globalisation has brought in people of different origin, different upbringing and different cultures together. Ability to become an integral part of a cross-cultural team will be a must for your success.

Lesson # 7 Take care of yourself

The stress that a young person faces today while beginning his or her career is the same as the last generation faced at the time of retirement.
I have myself found that my job has become enormously more complex over the last two or three years. Along with mutual alertness, physical fitness will also assume a great importance in your life.
You must develop your own mechanism for dealing with stress. I have found that a daily jog for me, goes a long way in releasing the pressure and building up energy. You will need lots of energy to deal with the challenges.
Unless you take care of yourself there is no way you can take care of others.

Lesson # 8: Persevere

Finally, no matter what you decide to do in your life, you must persevere. Keep at it and you will succeed, no matter how hopeless it seems at times. In the last three and half decades, we have gone through many difficult times. But we have found that if we remain true to what we believe in, we can surmount every difficulty that comes in the way.
I remember reading this very touching story on perseverance.
An eight-year-old child heard her parents talking about her little brother. All she knew was that he was very sick and they had no money left. They were moving to a smaller house because they could not afford to stay in the present house after paying the doctor’s bills. Only a very costly surgery could save him now and there was no one to loan them the money.
When she heard daddy say to her tearful mother with whispered desperation, ‘Only a miracle can save him now’, the child went to her bedroom and pulled a glass jar from its hiding place in the closet.
She poured all the change out on the floor and counted it carefully.
Clutching the precious jar tightly, she slipped out the back door and made her way six blocks to the local drug Store. She took a quarter from her jar and placed it on the glass counter.
“And what do you want?” asked the pharmacist. “It’s for my little brother,” the girl answered back. “He’s really, really sick and I want to buy a miracle.”
“I beg your pardon?” said the pharmacist.
“His name is Andrew and he has something bad growing inside his head and my daddy says only a miracle can save him. So how much does a miracle cost?”
“We don’t sell miracles here, child. I’m sorry,” the pharmacist said, smiling sadly at the little girl.
“Listen, I have the money to pay for it. If it isn’t enough, I can try and get some more. Just tell me how much it costs.”
In the shop was a well-dressed customer. He stooped down and asked the little girl, “What kind of a miracle does you brother need?”
“I don’t know,” she replied with her eyes welling up. “He’s really sick and mommy says he needs an operation. But my daddy can’t pay for it, so I have brought my savings”.
“How much do you have?” asked the man. “One dollar and eleven cents, but I can try and get some more”, she answered barely audibly.
“Well, what a coincidence,” smiled the man. “A dollar and eleven cents — the exact price of a miracle for little brothers.”
He took her money in one hand and held her hand with the other. He said, “Take me to where you live. I want to see your brother and meet your parents. Let’s see if I have the kind of miracle you need.”
That well-dressed man was Dr Carlton Armstrong, a surgeon, specialising in neuro-surgery. The operation was completed without charge and it wasn’t long before Andrew was home again and doing well.
“That surgery,” her mom whispered, “was a real miracle. I wonder how much it would have cost?”
The little girl smiled. She knew exactly how much the miracle cost … one dollar and eleven cents … plus the faith of a little child.
Perseverance can make miracles happen.

Lesson # 9: Have a broader social vision

For decades we have been waiting for some one who will help us in ‘priming the pump’ of the economy.
The government was the logical choice for doing it, but it was strapped for resources. Other countries were willing to give us loans and aids but there was a limit to this.
In the millennium of the mind, knowledge-based industries like Information Technology are in a unique position to earn wealth from outside. While earning is important, we must have mechanisms by which we use it for the larger good of our society.
Through the Azim Premji Foundation, we have targeted over the next 12 months to enrol over a million children, who are out of school due to economic or social reasons.
I personally believe that the greatest gift one can give to others is the gift of education. We who have been so fortunate to receive this gift know how valuable it is.

Lesson # 10: Never let success go to your head

No matter what we achieve, it is important to remember that we owe this success to many factors and people outside us. This will not only help us in keeping our sense of modesty and humility intact but also help us to retain our sense of proportion and balance.
The moment we allow success to build a feeling or arrogance, we become vulnerable to making bad judgements.
Let me illustrate this with another story:
A lady in faded dress and her husband, dressed in a threadbare suit, walked in without an appointment into the office of the president of the most prestigious educational institution in America.
The secretary frowned at them and said, “He will be busy all day.”
“We will wait,” said the couple quietly.
The secretary ignored them for hours hoping they will go away. But they did not. Finally, the secretary decided to disturb the president, hoping they will go way quickly once they meet him.
The president took one look at the faded dresses and glared sternly at them. The lady said, “Our son studied here and he was very happy. A year ago, he was killed in an accident. My husband and I would like to erect a memorial for him on the campus.”
The president was not touched. He was shocked. “Madam, we cannot put up a statue for every student of ours who died. This place would look like a cemetery.”
“Oh, no,” the lady explained quickly, “we don’t want to erect a statue. We thought we would give a building to you.”
“A building?” exclaimed the president, looking at their worn out clothes. “Do you have any idea how much a building costs? Our buildings cost close to ten million dollars!”
The lady was silent. The president was pleased and thought this would get rid of them.
The lady looked at her husband. “If that is what it costs to start a university, why don’t we start our own?” Her husband nodded.
Mr and Mrs Leland Stanford walked away, travelling to Palo Alto, California, where they established the university as a memorial to their son, bearing their name – the Stanford University.
The story goes that this is how Stanford University began.
I wish you every success in your career and your future life.

Sunday, 22 November 2015

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People



Habit No. 1: Be proactive. 
“Self-awareness enables us to stand apart and examine even the way we ‘see’ ourselves — our self-paradigm, the most fundamental paradigm of effectiveness. It affects not only our attitude and behaviors, but also how we see other people. It becomes our map of the basic nature of mankind.”

Habit No. 2 Begin with the end in mind.
“This habit is based on the principle that all things are created twice. There’s a mental or first creation, and a physical or second creation to all things.” In other words, visualize what you want as if it already happened and the universe will begin to work wonders.

Habit No. 3: Put first things first.
This habit is about personal and time management. Covey writes: “Management, remember, is clearly different from leadership. Leadership is primarily a high-powered, right brain activity. It’s more of an art; it’s based on a philosophy. You have to ask the ultimate questions of life when you’re dealing with personal leadership issues. But once you have dealt with those issues, once you have resolved them, you then have to manage yourself effectively to create a life congruent with your answers.”
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Habit No. 4: Think win/win.
According to Covey, “This is a frame of mind and heart that constantly seeks mutual benefit in all human interactions. Win/win means agreements are mutually beneficial, mutually satisfying… Most people think in terms of dichotomies: strong or weak, hardball or softball win or lose. But that kind of thinking is fundamentally flawed.”

Habit No. 5: Seek first to understand, then to be understood.
“We have such a tendency to rush in, to fix things up with good advice. But we often fail to take time to diagnose, to really, deeply understand the problem first… This principle is the key to effective interpersonal communication.”

Habit No. 6: Synergize.
On synergistic communication, Covey writes: “You begin with the belief that parties involved will gain more insight, and that the excitement of that mutual learning and insight will create a momentum toward more and more insights, learning, and growth.” Another gem: “Synergy is almost as if a group collectively agrees to subordinate old scripts and to write a new one.”

Habit No. 7: Sharpen the saw.
“It’s renewing the four dimensions of your nature—physical, spiritual, mental, and social/emotional.” Covey writes about continuous self-improvement. Commit, learn, and do.

Below are 10 quotes from Stephen Covey that have the power to completely change the direction of one’s life.
1)      The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.
2)      The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing.
3)      Live out of your imagination, not your history.
4)      Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.
5)      Most of us spend too much time on what is urgent and not enough time on what is important.
6)      I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions.
7)      You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage—pleasantly, smilingly, nonapologetically, to say “no” to other things. And the way you do that is by having a bigger “yes” burning inside. The enemy of the “best” is often the “good.”
8)      I teach people how to treat me by what I will allow.
9)      Love is a verb. Love – the feeling – is the fruit of love the verb or our loving actions. So love her.
10)   Live, love, laugh, leave a legacy.

Learning From the West by Narayana Murthy




Ladies and gentlemen:

It is a pleasure to be here at the Lal Bahadur Shastri Institute of Management. Lal Bahadur Shastri was a man of strong values and he epitomized simple living. He was a freedom fighter and innovative administrator who contributed to nation building in full measure. It is indeed a matter of pride for me to be chosen for the Lal Bahadur Shastri Award for Public Administration and Management Sciences. I thank the jury for this honor.

When I got the invitation to speak here, I decided to speak on an important topic on which I have pondered for years – the role of Western values in contemporary Indian society. Coming from a company that is built on strong values, the topic is close to my heart. Moreover, an organization is representative of society, and some of the lessons that I have learnt are applicable in the national context. In fact, values drive progress and define quality of life in society.

The word community joins two Latin words com (“together” or “with”) and unus (“one”). A community, then, is both one and many. It is a unified multitude and not a mere group of people. As it is said in the Vedas: Man can live individually, but can survive only collectively. Hence, the challenge is to form a progressive community by balancing the interests of the individual and that of the society. To meet this, we need to develop a value system where people accept modest sacrifices for the common good.
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What is a value system? It is the protocol for behavior that enhances the trust, confidence and commitment of members of the community. It goes beyond the domain of legality – it is about decent and desirable behavior. Further, it includes putting the community interests ahead of your own. Thus, our collective survival and progress is predicated on sound values.

There are two pillars of the cultural value system – loyalty to family and loyalty to community. One should not be in isolation to the other, because, successful societies are those which combine both harmoniously. It is in this context that I will discuss the role of Western values in contemporary Indian society.

Some of you here might say that most of what I am going to discuss are actually Indian values in old ages, and not Western values. I live in the present, not in the bygone era. Therefore, I have seen these values practiced primarily in the West and not in India . Hence, the title of the topic.

I am happy as long as we practice these values – whether we call it Western or old Indian values. As an Indian, I am proud to be part of a culture, which has deep-rooted family values. We have tremendous loyalty to the family. For instance, parents make enormous sacrifices for their children. They support them until they can stand on their own feet. On the other side, children consider it their duty to take care of aged parents.

We believe: Mathru devo bhava – mother is God, and pithru devo bhava – father is God. Further, brothers and sisters sacrifice for each other. In fact, the eldest brother or sister is respected by all the other siblings. As for marriage, it is held to be a sacred union – husband and wife are bonded, most often, for life. In joint families, the entire family works towards the welfare of the family. There is so much love and affection in our family life.

This is the essence of Indian values and one of our key strengths. Our families act as a critical support mechanism for us. In fact, the credit to the success of Infosys goes, as much to the founders as to their families, for supporting them through the tough times. Unfortunately, our attitude towards family life is not reflected in our attitude towards community behavior. From littering the streets to corruption to breaking of contractual obligations, we are apathetic to the common good. In the West – the US , Canada , Europe, Australia , New Zealand – individuals understand that they have to be responsible towards their community.

The primary difference between the West and us is that, there, people have a much better societal orientation. They care more for the society than we do. Further, they generally sacrifice more for the society than us. Quality of life is enhanced because of this. This is where we need to learn from the West.

I will talk about some of the lessons that we, Indians, can learn from the West.
In the West, there is respect for the public good. For instance, parks free of litter, clean streets, public toilets free of graffiti – all these are instances of care for the public good. On the contrary, in India , we keep our houses clean and water our gardens everyday – but, when we go to a park, we do not think twice before littering the place.

Corruption, as we see in India , is another example of putting the interest of oneself, and at best that of one’s family, above that of the society. Society is relatively corruption free in the West. For instance, it is very difficult to bribe a police officer into avoiding a speeding ticket.

This is because of the individual’s responsible behavior towards the community as a whole On the contrary, in India , corruption, tax evasion, cheating and bribery have eaten into our vitals. For instance, contractors bribe officials, and construct low-quality roads and bridges. The result is that society loses in the form of substandard defence equipment and infrastructure, and low-quality recruitment, just to name a few impediments. Unfortunately, this behavior is condoned by almost everyone.

Apathy in solving community matters has held us back from making progress, which is otherwise within our reach. We see serious problems around us but do not try to solve them. We behave as if the problems do not exist or is somebody else’s. On the other hand, in the West, people solve societal problems proactively. There are several examples of our apathetic attitude. For instance, all of us are aware of the problem of drought in India .

More than 40 years ago, Dr. K. L. Rao – an irrigation expert, suggested creation of a water grid connecting all the rivers in North and South India , to solve this problem. Unfortunately, nothing has been done about this. The story of power shortage in Bangalore is another instance. In 1983, it was decided to build a thermal power plant to meet Bangalore ‘s power requirements. Unfortunately, we have still not started it. Further, the Milan subway in Bombay is in a deplorable state for the last 40 years, and no action has been taken.

To quote another example, considering the constant travel required in the software industry; five years ago, I had suggested a 240-page passport. This would eliminate frequent visits to the passport office. In fact, we are ready to pay for it. However, I am yet to hear from the Ministry of External Affairs on this.

We, Indians, would do well to remember Thomas Hunter’s words: Idleness travels very slowly, and poverty soon overtakes it. What could be the reason for all this? We were ruled by foreigners for over thousand years. Thus, we have always believed that public issues belonged to some foreign ruler and that we have no role in solving them.

Moreover, we have lost the will to proactively solve our own problems. Thus, we have got used to just executing someone else’s orders. Borrowing Aristotle’s words: We are what we repeatedly do. Thus, having done this over the years, the decision-makers in our society are not trained for solving problems. Our decision-makers look to somebody else to take decisions. Unfortunately, there is nobody to look up to, and this is the tragedy.

Our intellectual arrogance has also not helped our society. I have traveled extensively, and in my experience, have not come across another society where people are as contemptuous of better societies as we are, with as little progress as we have achieved. Remember that arrogance breeds hypocrisy. No other society gloats so much about the past as we do, with as little current accomplishment.

Friends, this is not a new phenomenon, but at least a thousand years old. For instance, Al Barouni, the famous Arabic logician and traveler of the 10th century, who spent about 30 years in India from 997 AD to around 1027 AD, referred to this trait of Indians. According to him, during his visit, most Indian pundits considered it below their dignity even to hold arguments with him. In fact, on a few occasions when a pundit was willing to listen to hm, and found his arguments to be very sound, he invariably asked Barouni: which Indian pundit taught these smart things!

The most important attribute of a progressive society is respect for others who have accomplished more than they themselves have, and learn from them. Contrary to this, our leaders make us believe that other societies do not know anything! At the same time, everyday, in the newspapers, you will find numerous claims from our leaders that ours is the greatest nation. These people would do well to remember Thomas Carlyle’s words: The greatest of faults is to be conscious of none.

If we have to progress, we have to change this attitude, listen to people who have performed better than us, learn from them and perform better than them. Infosys is a good example of such an attitude. We continue to rationalize our failures. No other society has mastered this part as well as we have. Obviously, this is an excuse to justify our incompetence, corruption, and apathy. This attitude has to change. As Sir Josiah Stamp has said: It is easy to dodge our responsibilities, but we cannot dodge the consequences of dodging our responsibilities.

Another interesting attribute, which we Indians can learn from the West, is their accountability. Irrespective of your position, in the West, you are held accountable for what you do. However, in India , the more ‘important’ you are, the less answerable you are. For instance, a senior politician once declared that he ‘forgot’ to file his tax returns for 10 consecutive years – and he got away with it. To quote another instance, there are over 100 loss making public sector units (central) in India . Nevertheless, I have not seen action taken for bad performance against top managers in these organizations.

Dignity of labor is an integral part of the Western value system. In the West, each person is proud about his or her labor that raises honest sweat. On the other hand, in India , we tend to overlook the significance of those who are not in professional jobs. We have a mind set that reveres only supposedly intellectual work.

For instance, I have seen many engineers, fresh from college, who only want to do cutting-edge work and not work that is of relevance to business and the country. However, be it an organization or society, there are different people performing different roles. For success, all these people are required to discharge their duties. This includes everyone from the CEO to the person who serves tea – every role is important. Hence, we need a mind set that reveres everyone who puts in honest work.

Indians become intimate even without being friendly. They ask favors of strangers without any hesitation. For instance, the other day, while I was traveling from Bangalore to Mantralaya, I met a fellow traveler on the train. Hardly 5 minutes into the conversation, he requested me to speak to his MD about removing him from the bottom 10% list in his company, earmarked for disciplinary action. I was reminded of what Rudyard Kipling once said: A westerner can be friendly without being intimate while an easterner tends to be intimate without being friendly.

Yet another lesson to be learnt from the West, is about their professionalism in dealings. The common good being more important than personal equations, people do not let personal relations interfere with their professional dealings. For instance, they don’t hesitate to chastise a colleague, even if he is a personal friend, for incompetent work.

In India , I have seen that we tend to view even work interactions from a personal perspective. Further, we are the most ‘thin-skinned’ society in the world – we see insults where none is meant. This may be because we were not free for most of the last thousand years. Further, we seem to extend this lack of professionalism to our sense of punctuality. We do not seem to respect the other person’s time.

The Indian Standard Time somehow seems to be always running late. Moreover, deadlines are typically not met. How many public projects are completed on time? The disheartening aspect is that we have accepted this as the norm rather than the exception. In the West, they show professionalism by embracing meritocracy. Meritocracy by definition means that we cannot let personal prejudices affect our evaluation of an individual’s performance. As we increasingly start to benchmark ourselves with global standards, we have to embrace meritocracy.

In the West, right from a very young age, parents teach their children to be independent in thinking. Thus, they grow up to be strong, confident individuals. In India , we still suffer from feudal thinking. I have seen people, who are otherwise bright, refusing to show independence and preferring to be told what to do by their boss. We need to overcome this attitude if we have to succeed globally.

The Western value system teaches respect to contractual obligation. In the West, contractual obligations are seldom dishonored. This is important – enforceability of legal rights and contracts is the most important factor in the enhancement of credibility of our people and nation.
In India , we consider our marriage vows as sacred. We are willing to sacrifice in order to respect our marriage vows. However, we do not extend this to the public domain. For instance, India had an unfavorable contract with Enron. Instead of punishing the people responsible for negotiating this, we reneged on the contract – this was much before we came to know about the illegal activities at Enron.

To quote another instance, I had given recommendations to several students for the national scholarship for higher studies in US universities. Most of them did not return to India even though contractually they were obliged to spend five years after their degree in India .

In fact, according to a professor at a reputed US university, the maximum default rate for student loans is among Indians – all of these students pass out in flying colors and land lucrative jobs, yet they refuse to pay back their loans. Thus, their action has made it difficult for the students after them, from India , to obtain loans. We have to change this attitude.

Further, we Indians do not display intellectual honesty. For example, our political leaders use mobile phones to tell journalists on the other side that they do not believe in technology! If we want our youngsters to progress, such hypocrisy must be stopped. We are all aware of our rights as citizens. Nevertheless, we often fail to acknowledge the duty that accompanies every right. To borrow Dwight Eisenhower’s words: People that values its privileges above its principles soon loses both. Our duty is towards the community as a whole, as much as it is towards our families.

We have to remember that fundamental social problems grow out of a lack of commitment to the common good. To quote Henry Beecher: Culture is that which helps us to work for the betterment of all. Hence, friends, I do believe that we can make our society even better by assimilating these Western values into our own culture – we will be stronger for it.

Most of our behavior comes from greed, lack of self-confidence, lack of confidence in the nation, and lack of respect for the society. To borrow Gandhi’s words: There is enough in this world for everyone’s need, but not enough for everyone’s greed. Let us work towards a society where we would do unto others what we would have others do unto us. Let us all be responsible citizens who make our country a great place to live. In the words of Churchill: Responsibility is the price of greatness. We have to extend our family values beyond the boundaries of our home.

Finally, let us work towards maximum welfare of the maximum people – Samasta janaanaam sukhino bhavantu. Thus, let us – people of this generation, conduct ourselves as great citizens rather than just good people so that we can serve as good examples for our younger generation. –

The Soul of an Enterprise


The Soul of an Enterprise by Hatim Tyabgi

The essence of an entrepreneur can be boiled down to three basic tenets. First, entrepreneurs do what they do because they want freedom and self-direction in their work. Second, they want purpose and the ability to make a contribution, and third they want to create wealth. Central to the entrepreneurial culture, then, is the belief that work is our primary activity, and that through work we can achieve the sense of meaning that we are looking for in life.

Driving the economy, therefore, are immensely talented and highly energetic people who are seeking a practical answer to a core question: ‘How can I create work that I am passionate about, that makes a contribution and that also makes money?’ In other words, ‘what defines my soul?’
Thinking about that very profound question brings to mind a book written in the mid seventies that was called The Soul of a New Machine. The essence of the book was capturing the experience and work of a group of young men and women who got together and created the Data General mini-computer. That book addressed the soul of the people who created the machine; what I want to talk about is the soul of the enterprise.

One has to ensure that when an enterprise is put in motion it is founded on a guiding philosophy — a set of principles that are buttressed with deep convictions. Unless and until that framework is there, and the convictions are there, there cannot be a soul.
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In creating the soul, the fundamental essence comes down to leadership. I have high standards of leadership. I practice these standards myself, and I judge my own performance, and the performance of others, by them. I am not shy about advising others when they fail to meet my standards and, by the same token, I fully expect others to advise me when I fail to live up to my beliefs. The following tenets of leadership express my deeply held convictions — they represent the way I live and work.

1) Lead by example — saying one thing and doing another will only compromise your effectiveness. You are the role model for your staff. Practice your own beliefs faithfully and you will find your staff following your lead.

2) Take the toughest problems on yourself — you can’t delegate difficult decisions to your staff. As a leader you must assume personal responsibility for making the calls and accepting the consequences.

3) Set standards of excellence and measure performance against them— if you accept mediocrity, you will get mediocrity. Demand the best. Be consistent and explicit in both setting expectations and evaluating results.

4) Give commitment, get commitment — commit yourself and demand commitment from others. Make the extra effort to ensure that goals are met and results are achieved. Demonstrate your own commitment in everything that you do and expect nothing less from your staff.

5) Maintain a driving sense of urgency — take action now. Don’t be afraid to make a mistake. It may not be the absolute best choice but it is better than no choice at all.

6) Pay attention to detail.

7) Accept failure — nobody likes to fail, but a leader cannot afford to be paralyzed by the fear of being wrong. Take risks and be prepared to deal with the outcome.

8) Recognize limits — a true leader changes what can be changed and manages what can’t. Don’t waste time trying to solve problems beyond your control. Focus instead on the problems you can solve.

9) Set priorities — if you try to do everything at once, you will end up doing nothing at all. Rank what you and your staff have to do in order of importance. Use this ranking to spend your time and their time most efficiently.

10) Be tough but fair — leadership is an intensely personal and interpersonal skill. How you relate to your people means everything. Toughness starts with your own standards, your own performance and the example you set. Fairness is the other side of the coin. Judge others as you would judge yourself — fairly and consistently.

In summary then, when one thinks about convictions, one must have a deep and passionate belief. If you believe you can change the perceptions of those around you; if you believe you can change the business methods of your customers; if you believe you can change the behavior of your competitors. At the end of the day you can change the structure of your industry.

But to be able to do that you’ve got to participate — not only that, you have to live your life according to your particular guiding philosophy. Life is not a spectator sport. If you disagree with the precepts and philosophy of the company that you work with, you have an obligation to speak up. If you observe actions that conflict with the philosophy, you have an obligation to take corrective action of your own. Sitting on the sidelines and complaining is patently unacceptable. A true leader needs to count on each individual in his company to continually be an instrument of positive change.

Saturday, 21 November 2015

First Things First




 My daughter, Maria, recently had a new baby. A few days after she delivered, I visited with her, expecting to find her happy. Instead, I found her frustrated. She told me, "I have so many other projects and interests that are important to me. But right now, I have to put everything on hold. I'm spending all my time just meeting the physical needs of this new baby. I can't even find time to be with my other two children and my husband."

Seeking to understand, I replied, "So, this new baby is consuming you?" She continued, "I have other work to do. I have some writing projects that need my attention. I have other people in my life." I asked her, "What does your conscience tell you to do? Maybe right now there is only one thing that matters your baby." She said, "But I have so many other projects and plans." She showed me her organizer. "I schedule time to do these other things, but then I'm constantly interrupted by my baby." I talked to her about the concept of a compass, not a clock. "You're being governed by your internal compass, your conscience, and you're doing something of enormous good. Now is not the time to be controlled by the clock. Throw away your planner for a few weeks. Only one thing is needful. So, relax and enjoy the very nature of this interruption to your life."

"But what about life balance and sharpening the saw?" she asked, knowing I teach these principles. "Your life is going to be imbalanced for a time, and it should be. The long run is where you go for balance. For now, don't even try to keep a schedule. Forget your calendar; take care of yourself; don't worry. Just enjoy the baby, and let that infant feel your joy." I reminded her: "The good is often the enemy of the best. You won't get much satisfaction from fulfilling scheduled comitments if you have to sacrifice first things and best things. Your satisfactions are tied to your role expectations. Maybe the only role that matters this entire day will be mothering your new baby. And if you fulfill that role well, you will feel satisfied. But if you schedule other commitments when you have no control of the demands your baby is going to make, you'll only be frustrated." Maria has since learned to relax and enjoy her baby more. She has also involved her husband and other children more in caring for the new baby, sharing with them all that can be shared.
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Identify Your First Things

What are the first things in your life? One good way to answer that question is by asking other questions: "What is unique about me? What are my unique gifts? What is it that I can do that no one else can do? For instance, who else can be a father to your child? A grandparent to your grandchildren? Who else can teach your students? Who else can lead your company? Who else can be a mother to your baby? In a sense, we all have our "babies," meaning some demanding new project or product.

Subordinate Clock to Compass

For many executives, the dominant metaphor of life is still the clock. We value the clock for its speed and efficiency. The clock has its place, efficiency has its place - after effectiveness. The symbol of effectiveness is the compass a sense of direction, purpose, vision, perspective, and balance. A well-educated conscience serves as an internal monitoring and guidance system. To move from a clock to a compass mind-set, you focus on moving the fulcrum over by empowering other people. But the empowerment process itself is not efficient. You can't think control; you think of releasing feelings seldom expressed and interacting with others until you create something better and you don't know what it is at the beginning. It takes a lot of internal security, a lot of self-mastery, before you can even assume that risk. And the people who like to control their time, money, and things, tend to try to control people, taking the efficiency approach, which in the long run is very ineffective. Effectiveness applies to self as much as to other people. You should never be efficient with yourself either.

From Urgency to Importance

When we are guided by an internal compass, a highly educated conscience, we may decide to dedicate an entire morning to one person or to focus on one project and subordinate an earlier schedule we'd set up, unless we have strong commitments to meet with certain individuals, then we work around those. Or we may decide to set aside an afternoon to keep an appointment only with ourselves. During that time, we might sharpen the saw by exercising one or more of the four dimensions of our personality: physical, mental, social, and spiritual. We use self-awareness to know what to do and when. I recommend a time management credo that says: "I will not be governed by the efficiency of the clock; I will be governed by my conscience. Because my conscience deals with the totality of my life. And since it is well educated from study and from experience, it will help me make wise decisions." Under the influence of a well-developed conscience, you make decisions on a daily, hourly, and moment-to-moment basis to be governed by principles. If you are immersed in an extremely productive or creative work, don't let anything interrupt. Can you imagine a surgeon taking a telephone call in the middle of surgery? Most people are buried in urgency. Most production and management jobs call for quick reactions to what is urgent and important. The net effect of a reactionary, urgent lifestyle is stress, burnout, crisis management, and always putting out fires. If you're into daily planning and prioritizing, then by definition you live with urgencies and crises. Important but not urgent activities are easily pushed out by daily planning. When you are guided by an internal compass or set of principles, you begin to see that the idea that I am in control is an arrogant concept. You have to humbly submit yourself to natural laws that ultimately govern anyway. If you internalize those laws and principles, you create a highly educated conscience. And if you are open to it, you will keep first things first.

Friday, 20 November 2015

Lessons Taught by Failure by Napoleon Hill



Has it ever occurred to you that every failure and every mistake from which you survive, and every obstacle which you master, develops in you wisdom, strategy and self-mastery, without which you could accomplish no great undertaking?

No man likes to meet with failure, yet every failure can be turned into a stepping stone that will carry one to the heights of achievement, if the lessons taught by the failure are organized, classified and used as a guide.

If your failures embitter you toward your fellowmen and develop cynicism in your heart they will soon destroy your usefulness; but, if you accept them as necessary teachers and build them into a shield, you can make of them an impenetrable protection.
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Vanity prompts us to give more thought to our triumphs than we do to our failures, yet, if we profit by the experience of those who have accomplished most in the world, we will see that a man never needs to watch himself so closely as when he begins to attain success, because success often causes a slackening of effort and a letting down of that eternal vigilance which causes a man to throw the power of his combative nature into that which he is doing.

Source: Napoleon Hill’s Magazine. Vol. 1, No. 9. February, 1922. Back cover.

–Napoleon Hill

Thursday, 19 November 2015

Body Language



1. The shoulder shrug is a universal signal of not knowing what's going on.

2. Open palms are an ancient display of honesty.

3. A pointed finger with a closed hand is an attempt at displaying dominance.

4. Look for a lack of crinkles around the eyes to detect a fake smile.

5. Raised eyebrows are often a sign of discomfort.
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6. If their voice goes up or down, they're likely interested.

7. If they mirror your body language, the conversation is probably going well.

8. Eye contact shows interest — both positive and negative.

9. But if they look into your eyes for too long, they might be lying.

10. An expansive pose signals power and a sense of achievement.

11. Crossed legs are usually a sign of resistance and low receptivity, and are a bad sign in a negotiation.

12. A 'cluster' of gestures shows a real feeling of connection.

13. If they're laughing with you, they're probably into you.

14. A clenched jaw, tightened neck, or furrowed brow shows stress.

15. Expansive, authoritative postures show leadership.

16. A shaking leg signals a shaky inner state.

17. Crossed arms can signal defensiveness, depending on the context.